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People often say that the best apology is changed behavior. How can we tell that someone’s behavior has changed, though? Anyone can communicate that they’ve changed, but actually changing is a different thing. There are a few different things you can look for in conversation if you’re trying to decipher whether or not someone has changed. “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it,” says Edoardo Albert for Psychology Now. Read more below about body language and tone, and why it’s so important to communicate mindfully.

Body Language

Body language is essential to effective communication. Body language is considered a non-verbal cue because you can pick up on it without the other person having to say a word. Oftentimes, you can decipher how someone is feeling based on how they act non-verbally. Besides body language, eye contact is another non-verbal cue you can use to figure out what someone is — or isn’t — saying. Frequently, when someone is talking to you and avoiding eye contact, they are usually lying. Allan Pease, a body language expert, advocates for the use of body language, but also says you must use it in conjunction with other cues. “The golden rule is to always read body language in clusters of at least three, like words in a sentence,” says Pease. Ultimately, the more cues you get from someone, the more likely you’ll be to understand how they are thinking and feeling. 


How you are saying something influences what you’re saying. The tone of voice is another one of these things. “There are only five things you can change to make your voice an exciting instrument of communication,” says Harriet Whitbread, a renowned voice coach. These five things are pitch, exploring different vocal qualities, change of pace, shaping words, and volume. Manipulating your tone and how you come across can lead to many completely different outcomes for the conversation. 

Communication Across Cultures

We know that different cultures have different languages, but they also have differences in body language as well. Some signs, such as a smile, are ingrained in us to show that we are happy. This is true across all cultures. Other signs, such as the “ok” symbol, are learned. They have different meanings for different cultures. If you are traveling to different cultures, it’s important to brush up on their language. You wouldn’t want to offend someone by accident.

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