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Blame and Addiction

For many of us, there were reasons that we started using drugs or began drinking heavily. Maybe it was just for fun or possibly to fit in with the “cool” crowd. Perhaps it was to numb the pain of an abusive relationship or debilitating depression or anxiety. We all have our “why” when it comes to addiction. In many cases, though, that “why” becomes an excuse to point the finger and assign blame.

It is easy to blame your alcoholism on the boss that terminated you or the boyfriend that lied to you and left you with nothing. Some even place the blame on their higher power for creating the dire circumstances they found themselves in. While blame is a natural, albeit unhealthy, coping mechanism, it won’t help you in the long run. Anger, helplessness, and futility fester when blame runs rampant. With these emotions plaguing you, the positivity that emanates within your recovery is dulled and often overlooked. It doesn’t need to be that way. You can live a life free from blame.  

It is essential to understand that no matter what “why” you have in your life, you still made the decision to get high or rely on alcohol to get through the day. It was a choice, and it was a decision you made. No one made it for you. That may sound harsh, but accepting this fact is a critical step in your recovery. You didn’t choose to be molested as a child or to be physically abused by your parents, but you did choose drugs or alcohol as a way to escape. In order to indeed move past your addiction and enjoy the full extent of your recovery journey, you must own that choice. Blaming others for your decision makes you the victim. When you are the victim, you take away your control and your power. It is time to be the best version of you and to regain your strength. It is your life, and you can live it however you see fit.

Taking responsibility for yourself, your choices and your actions is the first step in eliminating blame and taking back the control. Acknowledge your mistakes and learn from them. Forgive those that have wronged you and move forward. Don’t focus on the error of their ways, but rather stay in tune with your own positivity.

Villa Tranquil is a recovery facility in a resort-like setting that offers a variety of services to help you through this challenging time in your life. Call 1-866-697-7573 to get the help you need today.