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Setting Boundaries During Your Recovery

Healthy boundaries are extremely necessary when you are beginning your recovery journey. You must be able to set a line that differentiates between what you deserve and what is harmful for your recovery. In doing so, you must learn to not feel bad when you must say no to someone. Your physical and emotional well-being must come first. Your recovery will never be complete if you are constantly breaking a boundary you set in order to please others. Here are five key steps to setting boundaries during your recovery.

1. Be aware of triggers

One of the hardest things about setting boundaries is coming to terms with what you deserve. If someone is going to treat you any less than what you deserve, that is a line you need to set at the beginning of your recovery. Learning what triggers you can help you set boundaries, too. Draw the line and be firm in not allowing those around you to overstep that line. Although you will not be able to avoid every trigger, setting boundaries will help to limit potential triggers. You must set that boundary so you do not place yourself in unhealthy situations.

2. Stand up for yourself

Make your boundaries known. Tape them to your mirror so you are reminded of them every morning. Add a note in your phone so you can look back at them if you need to. When it comes to those around you, be up front what your expectations of them. They need to know about your boundaries so that they will be able to respect them. If you think someone is crossing the line, be vocal about what is happening. Help them to learn what is okay and what is not.

3. Be firm in saying “no”

If someone is asking for help navigating your boundaries, do not be afraid to say “no” when you are not comfortable with something they are asking of you. You are allowed to say “no” when you feel uncomfortable or if you feel your boundaries are being overstepped. Sticking up for yourself in these situations may be very difficult, but fighting for yourself during your recovery is part of the process.

4. Work through guilt

After setting a boundary, you may feel guilty for saying “no.” You may even feel like you let the other person down. You must remind yourself that setting that boundary is worth more to your health than rolling over and letting people disrespect you. You have not done anything wrong by sticking up for yourself. Try to go easy on yourself.

5. Respect other people’s boundaries, too

Remember, you are not the only person that is establishing boundaries in your life. The respect goes both ways — if you are respecting someone else’s boundaries, they will be more inclined to respect yours as well.

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