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10 Ways To Have An Over The Top Romantic Valentine’s Day When You’re Single, Sober, And In Treatment

Romance isn’t exclusive to partnerships with other people. Carrie Bradshaw, the infamous frontwoman of the HBO series Sex and the City once quipped, “The most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”

Choosing to enter treatment for addiction or alcoholism is both a breaking point and a starting point. You’ve “hit bottom” in a destructive relationship with yourself when it comes to drug and alcohol abuse, but you’ve found the strength to start building a new relationship with yourself in recovery. Being in treatment may not seem like your a-typical idea of romance. Getting sober might be one of the most loving, adoring, kind, sweet, thoughtful, wonderful things you could ever do for yourself. While you are in treatment, there are ways to continue building that relationship with yourself by continuing to treat yourself as romantically as possible. With Valentine’s Day around the corner, now is the perfect time to kick up your program of self-care and start loving yourself on a whole new level. Single, sober, and in treatment could be one of the most memorable times of your life.


  • Buy yourself flowers: Flowers are a lovely way to brighten up your room in treatment, your common kitchen area, or shared space if you have one. Some treatment centers may not allow flowers based on your level of care. If you have the privilege, buy yourself a dozen roses or whatever you like to bring a bit of color and life into your recovery.
  • Cook yourself dinner: If you have the ability to cook for yourself in treatment, plan what you would call an extravagant meal for yourself. Macaroni and Cheese? Buy the best cheese. Want to try a new recipe? Get your housemates in on the action. Aching for your favorite microwave meal? Set the timer. Do what feels good to you, set a placemat, light a candle, and enjoy.
  • Give yourself a gift: A little something can go a long way in treatment. Though most treatment centers provide all the comforts of home, including a lot of closet space, you won’t have everything with you. Whether you want a new outfit, a pair of shoes, a new journal, or something else, pick a little gift to give yourself for making the rest of your stay in treatment that much better.
  • Luxuriate yourself in a spa day: Today, self-care through spa-like luxury is all the rage. Face masks and other luxury products are cheap and available online, in pharmacies, and grocery stores. Indulging in a professional spa-grade spa day is easier than ever before. Luxuriate yourself from head to toe, within treatment center rules of course.
  • Surprise yourself with a sweet card every day: For the thirteen days leading up to Valentine’s Day, surprise yourself with a sweet note. Buy cards in advance that give you humor, inspiration, a beautiful picture, and other motivations.
  • Involve your whole house in an activity: You are likely not the only one feeling a little uncomfortable with the Valentine’s Day holiday in the early stages of sobriety. Invite other women in your house or treatment center to participate in some of your activities. Everyone is working on their relationships with themselves.
  • Indulge in some sweet treats: Sweets, treats, and early sobriety are often synonymous. Sugar kicks can help kick cravings for drugs and alcohol to the curb. If your treatment center allows, buy some of your favorite Valentine’s Day treats and enjoy a night of indulgence.
  • Or find a healthy alternative: Sugar is often suggested against in early sobriety because of the way it affects the mind, the body, and the spirit. Try recreating your favorite Valentine’s Day treats in a clean, healthy way.
  • Write loving notes to yourself: Cards can be expensive, but notecards and post-it notes, or even cut up pieces of paper and dry erase markers are cheap. Leave yourself loving notes in hidden places like your drawers, your mirrors, your wallet, and your bedside.
  • Stay sober: Ultimately, most over the top romantic display of loving adoration you can do for yourself this Valentine’s Day is stay sober and commit yourself to recovery. Sobriety is a lifelong relationship with yourself unlike any other. Everyday you give yourself the gift of abstinence, you give yourself the greatest gift of all.


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